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Two months ago I read a Facebook update that said “Why must
I get married? I mean after getting married, what’s next?” as much as he was
denouncing the institution of marriage and not really sold out in marriage
(which that’s his choice) I was very interested in the latter part of his Facebook
Everything we do has what’s next we always ask ourselves
because as human beings (I don’t think animals or other beings read my blog),
while we still alive, we just don’t want to exist until we die but desire to
live our lives to the fullest! Human as we are, we all have this thing in us
that pushes us to desire to achieve something in life, achieve something for
ourselves that we can be proud of.
·After your honours qualification, what’s next?
·You are married, what’s next
·You are in senior position in your career, what’s
your next move?
·You launched your company with 300 employees, what’s
·You finally got the job title you’ve always
dreamed of in an organisation you desired to work for since you started your
career, what’s next?
The reason why we have a lot of unhappy people who have done
so well in life that their lives can be envied, it’s because people are not
content. They achieve things so they can be seen with a certain crowd. When
they do make it in that particular crowd, they realise it’s not what they
expected and continue to seek for things that they believe will make them feel
they have arrived. We never arrive. We never stop evolving and we never arrive
in life because there’s always more.
“Being content is if you were to be told you will never get
more than you have now, you will be happy and content.”
Before you go on a
journey to make something of yourself, start first by knowing you are already
someone. Know your worth and whose you are. It is always important to know and
believe that you don’t need nothing more to make you a better person. That will
prevent you suffering from superiority complexity.
complex is one of the ways that a person with an inferiority complex may use as
a method of escape from her/his difficulties. (S)he assumes that (s)he is
superior when (s)he is not, and this false success compensates her/him for the
state of inferiority which (s)he cannot bear. The normal person does not have a
superiority complex, (s)he does not even have a sense of superiority. (S)he has
the striving to be superior in the sense that we all have ambition to be
successful; but so long as this striving is expressed in work it does not lead
to false valuations, which are at the root of mental disease."
Here’s another point that has been in my heart ever since I
read about it in one of Kenneth Hagin’s book, “the permissible (approved) will and the perfect (unspoiled) will”.
One of the things the bible says is ask and it shall be given. Meaning, if we
are consistent in prayer in really desiring to have what we ask from Him, it is
possible He will end up giving it to us because He loves us and does not like
withholding things from us, especially when we constantly tell Him of these
desires we have. I mean buying your dream car is not a sin, pursuing a medicine
career is not a sin, having a job is not a sin and so forth. The tricky part
is, does what we have in the perfect will God has set for us? Or do we have
approved wills because we were persisting God in what we desire? How do you
even know if you are in the perfect will or permissible will? We all would love
to have the desires in our hearts met especially if they don’t contradict God’s
word, but how sure are we that all we are and have were not just approved
because we asked Daddy for them?
I was surprised that a man like Kenneth Hagin could fall
into the permissible plan just by him proclaiming at a sermon that he is a
teacher, then a prophet, when God said he is a prophet and then a teacher of
the word. God is very detailed hey?!
“Imagine getting to
heaven and God walks around with you showing you what you have done for Him,
the universities you built for Him, and the big church you built. He says Great buildings! Good organisation!
Great church! But wrong assignment!” -Bishop
One of the traits I love about God is, even if you can be in
the permissible will, He is the God who makes all things work together for good
and makes everything fall into place because He loves us. As you continue
making a name for yourself and glorifying God with all you are and have, May
you remember to pause and consult Him first to check if you are in the perfect
will He has set for you. An unspoiled will is always best than the approved
will. So, what’s next champion? Whatever is next, may it bring fulfilment to
God and you.
Every morning you are included in my morning prayer, as i am not sure if you will stop by the bus stop to pick me up. The other day you saw me running towards you and you just left me, knowing you are the last bus on that bus stop to get to where i am going, you left me desperate. I was told later that you are upset because i normally take the other bus so why am i using one of yours today!
You behave as if i don't pay to be in your bus. You are so unprofessional and very moody!One would mistaken you to be under the SA government because of your behaviour! You are unethical and everyday you leave me wondering if you will stop by.
Some of your passengers have marked seats and even keep seats for their friends who will only be in the bus 5 stops from mine! If me and Ma-Sithole have the same tags and pay the same amount, please can you tell your favourite passengers that i would like to sit where i want to sit.
End of the year, your drivers expect gifts from us passengers…
as this can be funny, it is a heartbreaking fact for the one who considers you their best friend when you don’t. How do friendships get to this point? When your best
friend doesn’t see you as his/her best friend? If I’m your best friend, it
makes sense for you to be my best friend, right!!! Well wrong!!! I always
wondered why my mom (and many other adults I know) don’t have a lot of friends.
As we grow, it’s hard to keep friends, let alone make friends. We see those we
used to call friends grow apart with us as we follow different life paths. I
have heard someone say, “Consider yourself favoured if you ever have 3 best
friends in your lifetime”. Change is constant. As we grow we realize that our priorities
change and our different journeys make it hard to relate. The study argues that the reason we start to
lose friends is because people spend their younger years experimenting, meeting
lots of different people in adolescence before settling down with closer
friends as they reac…
No! I’m not
having marital issues and no I’m also not bitter! But why would You want to
marriage??? B and I
sometimes wonder what the best age to get married in is. I don’t think I would
have managed getting married at 23. I didn’t know myself and would have lost my
identity in marriage. On the
other hand, getting married at the age I got married in, I was set in my ways.
So was B. We were happy with how we did life and it was a challenge to adjust to
starting our own culture as a couple.
Is there a
right age to marry? I don’t think so. The truth is, marriage is for the matured
and the forgivers. Not in any way am I assuming the immature are the ones who
will not marry, what I mean is, it takes maturity and forgiveness to go through
the marriage journey. Another
thing is, it’s good to equip yourself with listening to marriage sermons and reading
books about marriage before you marry but, I tell you this much, that
contributes only 10 % towards your marriage. Nothing can prep…