Life Lived From The Inside

One of the questions I was asked at pre-marital counselling was to share how my parents’ marriage was like. B was asked the same question. I was then asked to describe my mother with one word. I said she is a survivor. I described my dad as chilled. B was asked to describe his parents as well and he described his late mom as a survivor. Why where we asked to think back and share our views of our parents’ marriages? Well, it is because they did not want us to repeat the same mistakes. From us voicing out our views about our parents’ marriages, we noticed the mistakes they made. We also noticed the good parts about their marriages that we learned from. This exercise was done so that a pattern of past mistakes doesn’t repeat in our marriage. Have you noticed how every life is made up of patterns? In fact one of my good friends' view in finding a compatible partner for herself included a series of asking generational pattern questions about the guy who was pursuing her. ...

Growing up is something else! You notice how time passes by so quickly and wonder if you and your peers have the same 24 hours because for some odd reason, they seem to be moving on with life. You realise you have yourself to blame if your life does not turn out the way you would have desired it to. Adult life is definitely no child’s play (excuse the pun!). Another wonder about growing up is what would you be remembered for, or are you even living the quality life God designed for you to live? One of the questions I don’t like to be asked is “ So, what do you do ?” I always feel like how I respond to that question, determines what the person who asked me thinks of me. More than anything, I don’t like asking the question because what someone does, is not necessarily who they are. As I build relationships, it is not what you do that matters to me. What matters is, who are you? , And WHY do you do what you do. WHY DO YOU DO WHAT YOU DO? When I took a break from bloggin...

December is a month where I pause and reflect on the year. Take stock of what I did and didn't do. I had planned to share my post about "Why do you do what you do", until I came across this great idea from blogger Phumeza Langa https://onmogul.com/stories/2016-live-learn-love-grow-and-survive and i decided to give it a try. Hope you give it a try too. 1. What did you do in 2016 that you'd never done before? I cant think of anything new that i did that i have never done before. 2. Did you keep your new years resolutions, and will you make more for next year? I did not keep all my 2016 goals and yes I will make more for 2017. I have already started.  3. How will you be spending your New Year's Eve? At church with my husband and mother. 4. Did anyone close to you die? Yes, my dad . My late dad and I. 5. What countries did you visit this year? None, but was still fortunate to go on a couples retreat in the Western Cape. 6. What w...

It was 23h45 when we received a call that my father had passed on. B asked how am I, I said I am okay, turned around and went back to sleep. But I couldn’t sleep after hearing that my father is no more. I was confused. I thought of my gran and my brother because they were the closest to him. I started thinking about when exactly should I go home. Maybe a day before the funeral? I wasn’t too sure. The first person I called was my brother who didn’t answer his phone. Then I called my mother and we spoke for a while. I then called my cousin, my dad’s first niece who explained what really happened and that my brother found him. I wept. I wept so hard at the thought that my father died alone. I wept at the thought of what my brother experienced. I wept knowing that the text message I sent him the night before, he never got to read it because by then, he was already gone. It was so painful and it hurt. Only then it hit me that I had lost my father. B and I left immediately...

Hi Friends,  I am on a three month( July; August and September) break.  “This is our goal as writers, I think; to help others have this sense of–please forgive me–wonder, of seeing things anew, things that can catch us off guard, that break in on our small, bordered worlds. When this happens, everything feels more spacious." I still want to continue to write in depth posts and that takes perfecting my writing skill, clear mind and sharing my life experiences through words. 

As I was prepping for my new post for the month, I came  across  my prayer list Bongani and i had drafted whilst we were still courting We drafted this a month after we met and it continued to grow. Going through it made me realise how faithful God was. I decided to share this with you so you are also encouraged to draw up your own personal prayer list. "Everything that is birthed through prayer, will be sustained by prayer."    Bongani and Temogo's prayer items 1.        Prayer of thanksgiving: 1Chro6v8-13; Deut8 ·          Thanking God for allowing our paths to meet and do life together. ·          Grateful for His protection and guidance in this long distance relationship. ·          Thanking Him for continually developing fruit of the Spirit in us, and striving for a pure relationship...

I grew up in a Christian home. We never practiced cultural things or cultural rituals. It was a traditional Christian home where we went to church and prayed and, I enjoyed church. I had a few crushes here and there and never remembered any of the sermons preached at church, but I really enjoyed singing hymns and church conferences. In a nutshell, that was me spiritually. I recall in 2002, Rhema bible church had their school ministry team visit our school for a whole week. They spoke of Jesus and giving your life to Christ, but somehow I didn’t quite get it and felt it was for those who did not go to church and are not Christian. I went to church occasionally so they were not speaking to me. All I was focusing on was the handsome boys the ministry team came with and wanted to get their numbers. I did get some guy’s number, and he was cool and all, but everything he spoke about was my relationship with Jesus. Little did I know that he was concerned about my soul when I was ...